This forum is only for those dating or in a relationship with a widow or widower. If you haven't been in this situation, you can only speculate, and speculation hurts and invalidates. Dating someone who lost their significant other is difficult until you learn how to maneuver the situation. Dating a Widow, Feelings of being Secondary I have met an amazing woman about two months ago, she happens to be a widow, married 22 years her husband had died about 20 months ago. I am having a bit of trouble with feeling like I am second, that if she could have her husband back she would. I was with a woman for 6-7 years when one day she left me without so much of a word. Told me I was dumped and it turned out she'd been cheating for god knows how long. It took me 2 entire years to even feel 'normal' again. I joined a dating site because I felt like I needed to get myself out there again.

At Chick’s Night Out we widows talk about everything and the last couple of months dating has been a subject of interest. For those who have lost a spouse and are looking forward to dating again, here are some tips to help you successfully start dating again.

There is no specific time period to wait before dating again
Grieving and the process of moving on is something that’s unique to each person. Whatever you do, don’t let others tell you you’re moving too fast or waiting too long. Make sure it’s something you’re really ready to try before taking that step. There will always be someone who will not understand why you’ve chosen to date again – their opinions do not matter.

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Dating for the right reasons
Take some time to understand why you want to date. If you’re dating because you think it’s going to somehow fill the void or heal the pain that comes from losing a spouse, it’s not going to happen. Dating does give you the chance to experience the joy that comes with falling in love again but it has be right for you.

Feeling guilty
The first time you go out with another man you may feel like you are cheating on your late husband. You may even look around to see if there is anyone you know, as if you are doing something wrong. That feeling of guilt should lessen after you have gone on several dates. But if the guilt’s not subsiding, you may not be ready to date again. Give dating a break and try it later when you are more up to the task.

It’s okay to talk about the deceased spouse—just don’t overdo it
It’s okay to talk about the spouse when you’re first dating someone. Answer questions he may have about your marriage, but don’t spend all your time talking about the past. Showing a genuine interest in your date and his interests shows you’re ready to start a new life.

It’s okay to make mistakes
If you find yourself forgetting simple dating etiquette, don’t worry about it. Most dates will understand if they know it has been awhile since you dated.

Take things slow
We miss the kisses, having someone’s head resting on our shoulder and the warm body next to us in bed. This lack of physical and emotional intimacy is enough to drive us to the dating scene. We want that warm body next to ours and to have the words “I love you” whispered in our ears. But it can save you a lot of emotional heartache if you wait to make sure and take it slow.

Make your date feel special
It’s a basic dating rule, but it’s often forgotten by widows and widowers. Because we already had someone special in our lives, it’s easy to forget to make our date feel special too. Even though dating can be awkward and difficult at times, it can also be a lot of fun. Part of the reason we’re here is to enjoy life and dating is a great way to start living again.

Dating a widower comes with unique challenges that you won’t encounter when dating a single or divorced man. For the relationship to work, the widower will have to put his feelings for his late wife to the side and focus on you. But how do you know if he’s ready to take this step?

Drawing on his own experience as a remarried widower, Abel Keogh provides unique insight and guidance into the hearts and minds of widowers, including:

• Why widowers date so soon after their late wife dies

• How to know if the widower is ready to make room in his heart for you

• Red flags that indicate widowers aren’t ready for commitment

• How to set and maintain healthy relationship boundaries with widowers

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Dating a Widower is your guide to having a successful relationship with a man who’s starting over. It also contains 21 real-life stories from women who have gone down the same road you’re traveling. It’s the perfect book to help you decide if the man you’re seeing is ready for a new relationship—and whether dating a widower is right for you.